The Spectrum of Aloneness and Community
December 20th, 2022
Aloneness is my home and my peace. Periods of isolation is dedicated time for healing, pleasure, and to decide who and what to allow into our lives.
Loneliness is a barrier in the form of a fear that we all work to avoid. Learning to feel comfortable being alone was a journey I started when I moved away from my family/hometown nearly 6 years ago. I learned to not let the lack of companionship stop me from doing something I wanted - that embracing solitude welcomes new experiences, understandings, and people - how to recognize the limitations placed upon us by our surroundings - and how to live unapologetically, intuitively, and spontaneously. I realized that I’m the only constant I’ll have for the rest of my life and I’m committed to challenging her, fulfilling her, protecting her, and understanding her. I’ve developed hyper independence as a result, and set goals of being self-sustaining in as many areas as possible.
I learned that being welcomed to experience life’s moments with one another is the most intimate form of exchange. I learned to embrace all of people’s unknown complexities and to recognize that there is so much we will never know or understand about one another. Understanding that we are all individual people, existing alongside one another, doing the best we can in the moment. Acts of service is my primary love language, providing what one another needs to bring joy or ease, showing affection to make someone feel loved, seen, special, and appreciated, and little reminders that we are here to share life and to support one another. We are on eachothers team, and we keep one another evolving.